The True View of You

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt People in recovery often have a distorted view of themselves. They may see themselves as inadequate and unacceptable. Some of this thinking comes from a…

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Normal Will Reset – Eventually

“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” – Commonly Attributed to Winston Churchill Out of Control When the decision to enter recovery is made, the addiction is often out of control. Something has to change or nothing will change….

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Three Critical Elements of Successful Recovery Programs

“The greatest gift of life is friendship, and I have received it.” – Hubert H. Humphrey Designing Successful Recovery I am involved in several intensive outpatient programs (IOP) that provide treatment and support for those with serious or…

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The Hinge Pin Lie Behind All Negative Thinking

“I was going to buy a copy of “The Power of Positive Thinking,” and then I thought: what good would that do?” – Ronnie Shakes What is Negative Thinking? Thoughts bombard us all day long like the steady…

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Creating Half-Time Strategies for Recovery

“Don’t give up at half time. Concentrate on winning the second half.” – Paul Bryant In the sport of football, each game has four quarters with a 12 minute break between the two halves. This break has the…

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Don’t Cast Your Pearls Before Swine

There is an old proverb that says: “Don’t cast your pearls before swine.” I grew up on a small family farm in Minnesota in the 1960’s. We had the usual assortment of amusing farm animals including cows, chickens,…

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Keep Your Goal, But Change Your Tactics

A man came into my office some years back and his abrasive interactions with his wife, in my presence, caused me to ponder the reasons behind his aggressive and painfully degrading verbal comments. Communication is purposeful; meaning when…

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Recovery is Not the Goal

I’ve spent the better part of my 30+ year career helping people recover from substance use and mental health disorders, so my saying that recovery is not the goal likely comes as a bit of a surprise. The…

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Character Transformation Makes Treatment Successful

As a psychologist and substance use counselor it would stand to reason that I should be concerned with the attitudes, dispositions, emotions, mindset, and memories that all flavor our actions. When I speak to people in our group…

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Resolving Old Wounds

I gave a presentation on Codependency to a small group last Saturday. The event was held in an elegantly appointed retreat house hidden away. From the back of the room, leaning across a granite countertop, eyes shining and…

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